“Child is the father of a man “these lines by William Wordsworth tells us the significance of parenting. Here are some important points we should keep in mind to improve the parenting skills.
1. Respect your child
Respect your children and yourself and positive discipline is an outcome of mutual respect.
2. Love them unconditionally
The greatest thing that you can give to your kids is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance. Love is all about what we give not what we get. Practice doing something for your kids each day with love alone.
3. Don’t compare your children to others
Each child is unique. The point, of course, is to understand and grow your kids for who they are, not who you can compare them to. There is only one comparison that is actually important – and that’s comparing a child to who they were before.
4. Life is a great teacher
Don’t be too quick to save your child from the results of their own actions if the consequences are not severe. Let the divine teacher to teach your child whenever it is needed. It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.
5. Be a role model
Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them. The best teachers of humanity are the lives of great men. You are in charge of your feelings, beliefs, and actions. And you teach others how to behave toward you. While you cannot change other people, you can influence them through your own behaviours and actions. By being a living
role model of what you want to receive from others, you create more of what you want in your life.
6.Be assertive
An assertive parent is neither authoritative nor permissive. She stands up for her children's rights, but she does not condone wrong-doing. She listens to her child's side of the story, but is not afraid to point out errors in the child's reasoning.
7. Teach your children that it is okay for them to be different
“Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone is getting on the band wagon. Teach him to have faith in his own ideas even if everyone tells him they are wrong.”These are the lines from the Lincoln’s letter to his son’s teacher.
8.Your child is not an extension of yourself
If you living out your own dreams through your child then it is dangerous , your child is unique and not an extension of yourself. If you're placing undue pressure on your child to achieve your unfulfilled hopes, it should be frustrating for the kid.
9.Avoid public humiliation
If they misbehave in public, take them aside, and scold them privately.
10.Control your temper
Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it's important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.
11.Give up your vices
Gambling, alcohol and drugs can jeopardize your child's financial security. Smoking, for example, almost always introduces health hazards to your child's environment.
12.Listen to your child
Listening to your child's perspective will teach you a lot. Kids are smarter than most grown-ups think, and they generally know what they need. Listen to your kids, and they will teach you how to raise them. 13.Walk the Talk
From how you handle stress to how you celebrate success to how you greet a neighbor on the street, your baby is observing you and finding out how to respond in various situations."
14.Let your child make mistakes.
As parents our first inclination is to rush in and save our children when something goes wrong in their lives, or to shield them and prevent whatever the “bad” thing is from happening in the first place. Sadly, we all learn better through making our own mistakes
15.Don’t clip your child’s wings
As a parent one of the hardest things to do is watch your child make mistakes. While you may want your child to benefit from your mistakes, the greatest and most appreciated lessons are those personally learned. This can be one of our greatest parenting challenges, deciding when to step in and when to let your child experience their own mistakes.
17.Don’t try to fix everything
Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. When you lovingly acknowledge a child's minor frustrations without immediately rushing in to save her, you teach her self-reliance and resilience.
18.Discipline is not a punishment
Enforcing limits is really about teaching kids how to behave in the world and helping them to become competent, caring, and in control.
19.Pick your battles
Avoid arguing about little stuff and Focus on the things that really matter.
20.Create Family rituals
Family rituals passed down from generation to generation that help shape your family by creating a sense of unity, warmth and closeness. They create memories that fill your mind with peace, love, happiness, and security
21.Encourage exploration
A young child’s opinion about her capabilities is, to a large extent, based on her parent’s or caregiver’s response to her. As an adult, your role in fostering independence is to provide love and support, encourage exploration and curiosity, teach skills, and allow the child to make appropriate choices. Your enthusiasm for a child’s exploration sends a message that these activities are valued by you.
22.Teach emotional Intelligence
when you help your child understand and handle overwhelming feelings such as anger, frustration, or confusion, you develop his emotional intelligence quotient, or emotional IQ.
23.Read together
Reading aloud with children is known to be the single most important activity for building the knowledge and skills they will eventually require for learning to read. Read with your kids every day, and watch them blossom.
24.Give yourself a break
Recharge, give yourself a break when it is needed.
Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend
25. when you make a mistake, apologize to your child
A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.
